Friday, May 2, 2008

Headlights before me

Photo: Glassy Eye on Flickr

"There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life."

Recent conversations with a friend who is going through a rough time have stirred up a myriad of thoughts in my busy mind.

Release is defined as the act of letting go. In every situation, you can either take responsibilty and attempt to make things happen, or you can choose to let go. Is one option better or worse? Obviously, every situation is different. If you're talking about a toxic aspect of your life, there's a good chance that you will need to let go in order to create a better reality for yourself. That's just so much easier said than done though, isn't it? Many emotions and beliefs can be lingering inside our heads which prevent us from creating a better reality for ourselves. Sometimes negative thoughts can clutter our minds and take up the space needed in order to imagine and create a life based on what we want. The reality is, it's unfortunate that bad things happen to us, but they do. Clinging to the psychic debris left behind can sometimes do even more damage than the actual event itself.

The human heart is remarkably resilient. I forget that sometimes. I've learned that although it may be difficult at times, it's important for me to trust my heart in order to release the aspects of my life that stagnate me.

I've never understood why people talk about letting go like it's so easy. If letting go was easy to do, I wouldn't have spent so much time with Mr. All Wrong. What's the point of clinging to something not worth hanging on to? Is it just that there isn't anything else that seems more appealing at the moment? Is it the faint hope that a situation or a person will change, or come to their senses? I think that sometimes we need to let people leave their mark on us, even if it scars.

I've come to the conclusion that all I can do is be honest; honest about who I am, about what I want and what I deserve, honest about what I'm giving and what I'm receiving. Beyond that, I suppose it's just up to the graces of whatever.


Anonymous said...

You never go into a relationship thinking someone sucks. For me, it was always hoping that My Mr. All Wrong would revert back to how he was when we met. If he was always a douchebag it would have been easy to let go, but I had tons of memories of how he used to be different. People change, but rarely change BACK.

Here's hoping you find someone you don't ever want to change, and that my relationship stays that way. <3

- J @

Callie said...

Hey you! Thank you for taking a moment to visit mah blog. Yours is awesome, and yes my dear- the heart is resilient!